Thanks Eskro for the nudge in the right direction. Here is the build i just ordered the parts for. Please note i was limiting myself to Amazon and Newegg and went with best pricing and availability.
Case - Antec ISK 300-150
Newegg Link $79.99 plus $6.99 shipping. Struggled with this one. Wanted tiny, but in the end the ISK 110 just didnt do it for me. Liked the idea of slapping in a Bluray drive etc.
Motherboard GIGABYTE GA-H77N-WIFI LGA 1155 Intel H77
Newegg Link $104.99
Went back and forth with the ASRock and Gigabyte Z77 boards, but in the end decided to stick with the H77. Not too much difference between them other than better overclocking features with the Z77 boards and the ASRock in particular. The lack of heat sinks on the Gigabyte boards concerned me, but havent read about any issues with them.
CPU Intel Core i3-3245 3.40GHz 2 LGA 1155
Amazon Link $145.99
$10 more than the 3225, figured what the heck for a slightly faster and newer processor with the same Intel HD 4000 graphics
Memory Kingston Hyper X Plug n Play 8 GB Kit
Amazon Link $91.74
May not need 8GB for an HTPC machine, but i want to be able to do some other things with the machine as well.
SSD Corsair Neutron Series GTX 120GB
Amazon Link $114.99
Once again not necessary for a HTPC, but i wanted additional disk space and a highly rated fast SSD with 5 year warranty.
Optical Drive Panasonic UJ240 6x Blu-ray Burner
Amazon Link $63.18
Cost about $40 buck more than a DVD drive, but thought it would be nice to have the option for playing non ripped Blurays and or burning them.
Slimline Sata Adapter Amazon Link $9.89
Hope to slap it all together this weekend and will post back how it goes. This wasnt meant to be a budget build by any means. Total cost was about $640.
Edit: Finished build last night, loaded up XBMC and will put in place this morning. My first build with an SSD and it really is amazing to see a Windows install go that fast and to see boot times under 12 seconds. The case fan has a 3 pin plug on it and the sys fan header is 4 pin. The 3 pin will plug into it and does work. I initially used a 3 pin to molex adapter i had laying around and then changed it after doing some research on a replacement fan.
Enabling ErP in the Power Management section of the BIOS solved the issue i had with the case fan running all of the time when the HTPC was in sleep mode.
Started a new thread, but its about issues with the Intel HD 4000 Graphics and not how wonderful this new build is running. I saw a lot of issues in various forums with people running Windows 8.1. Hopefully ill be able to work them out. Maybe Windows 7 would have been the better way to go
2nd Edit: Graphics issues have been worked out for the most part. Build is running great. Installed Shell Classic to deal with the lack of a start menu and to steer clear of tile hell